One of the biggest rules for raising my children, and subsequently my daycare kids, was “I won’t do for you what you can do for yourself”. To be clear, teach them, make sure they are capable, and it is safe for them. Mastering a task comes from learning, making mistakes, and doing it as many times as needed. Show them how to do it, and let them learn how to do it on their own. Your children will become far more empowered through doing things for themselves.
Time is always of the essence, but patience is truly a virtue when it comes to letting children learn through their mistakes. Sometimes even taking a step back, letting their pride show through your praise of their imperfectly made bed (for example). Giving praise even with an error at their task and allowing them to correct their mistakes will give them the drive needed to try again. It is very discouraging when your little and you are constantly being told your efforts are not good enough. I have seen many children give up trying. Motivation comes from being given an opportunity to fail and then to correct it. Its learning and knowing that hard work and determination gets rewarded.
Chores are important for children to learn. Being part of a family/daycare, we all do our part. No task is less important than the next. Putting toys away, clearing dishes, helping with washing tables, all important and simple but highly rewarded through praise. Children will begin to ask for more responsibility, and have more confidence in their abilities. We try to teach independence so it is easier when they go to school. Teaching them that it is okay to ask for help, and learning from mistakes.